Here is a truth for you to consider. If someone needs to change in order to be a satisfactory match for you, it is telling you that they are not a match for you in this right now moment. You will save yourselves a lot of angst and heartache if you can accept people exactly as they are, and make decisions based on if they are a good energetic match to you, in your truth, as you are.

Some people say, “Well Gabriel, I am confused. They say one thing and they do another.” Dear Ones, people are always showing you who they really are by their actions, and how they make you feel. Does this person make you feel loved? Accepted? Honoured? Nurtured? Cared about? What is the overall essence of this relationship? We are not talking about how they treated you long ago. We are talking about how they treat you right now, in your present reality. If this is not a satisfying union why are you accepting so little for yourself? Do you have to step out of self love to continue on with this relationship?

Do not sacrifice your happiness, your joy, your opportunities, waiting for another to change, Dear Ones, because their souls are experiencing exactly what they need to experience at this time, and there is no telling how long they may wish or need to stay in that experience.

We will simplify the Law of Attraction one step further for you. Intend to manifest what you love. Look for things around you that you love. Send what you love, love. Feel the love that exists in you and for you.

It all really boils down to love, in the end, doesn’t it? And that is what we wish for you – that you live your life in a continual flow of love, embracing both the in breath and out breath of love, dancing and thriving and co-creating with the unconditional love of the universe. ~Archangel Gabriel

When you were a young child you would dream and create without fear. Your brain simply didn’t know how to worry or play out negative scenarios. You simply focused on the pure essence of what you wished to experience and went for it. Your operating system was one of focused intention and movement, all based on what interested you or brought you satisfaction, adventure, comfort, or joy.

The universe does not deal with negatives either. It only responds to the essence of your focus.

Do you see what this means? You have been trained to become negatively focused! This has come from well-meaning parents and caretakers who were concerned about your safety. They sought to ensure your well-being by instilling fear in you. Perhaps they experienced lack and struggle in their lives so they taught you to expect that so that you wouldn’t be disappointed. What a strange lesson! Expect the world to be a harsh place so you won’t be disappointed!

What we are trying to show you is that negative focus is not your natural state of being. It is a conditioning, and one that, if you allow yourself to connect with your purest essence, is not in line with who you are.

Being positive and focused on the essence of what you wish to experience is your natural instinct. Take a moment to consider your ideas and inspirations. More often than not, your first response is one that is positively focused and then, seconds later, the conditioning hits and all the fears and doubts start to flood in.

When you navigate your life from an unshakeable place of self love, you will find decisions become easier. You will experience less extremes. Healthy boundaries will be clearer. People will respect and honour you because you hold that respect and honour for yourself.

Self love doesn’t need to be hard to move into. If you are unsure if a situation is unfolding in a way that is appropriate for you, simply ask yourself if it would be acceptable treatment for your best friend or a beloved child. If the answer is no, it is not acceptable for you either. Many of you have been conditioned to make decisions based on externals – on what will please others. What a faulty premise, because satisfaction can only come from within. It is impossible to assume responsibility for another’s emotions. It has been disempowering and distracting, to say the least, to try to live your life expression in a satisfying and predictable way while depending on the wild card of other people’s responses.

Again, love is the most transformative, empowered element there is. It is the fuel that will help you arrive at all of the adventures your soul seeks to experience. Allow it to be your first response for yourself and you will be so whole and nurtured that it will automatically become your first response to everything and everyone else in your life, too. ~Archangel Gabriel

The greatest joy comes from expressing yourself in your truth, your authenticity, in a fully present way. If you are not experiencing a lot of joy in your life, how are you not allowing your truth to shine? How can you find ways to do that? What can you start to do to allow yourself to experience what we call the sweet spot, fully embracing your self and the present moment at the exact same time?

Do activities that you love. If you don’t know what you love to do anymore, we suggest you go to a book store or library and wander up and down every aisle. Pay attention to where you linger, it is a good indicator of what interests you. Find the perfection in yourself as a beloved and vital piece of Source. Find perfection in the present moment. Become a joy detective, looking for it wherever you go!

Dear Ones, joy is not something that cruelly eludes you, or is some prize that you may win if you are lucky. You can find joy by savouring biting into a jelly bean, in examining a snowflake, in hearing children’s laughter. It is all around you, just waiting for you to embrace it and join in the fun. ~Archangel Gabriel