RESPECT CHILDREN Many parents attempt to spare their children the pain they suffered when they were young, going out of their way to protect their children by sheltering them. What happens as a result is that the child is denied many experiences. They are not given the trust or respect needed to make decisions that will enable them to live a full life. Their maturity is stunted, for they do not learn how to solve their problems or learn to say “no” on their own terms.
Instead of making choices for them, teach them from very young ages how to act appropriately. Teach them to solve their own problems at an early age and allow them to experience the result of their choices. Then, when they reach adolescence, they will have the skills necessary to choose friends and recreational activities that are in their best interest.
As parents release negative thought patterns, change undesirable habits and out-dated belief codes, they will be much better equipped to raise their children.
Most children, before they enter kindergarten, have already developed belief codes such as: children should be seen and not heard, only babies cry, I have no control over my life, at anytime my parents can leave me, no one listens to me, anger is bad, do not show your emotions, people laugh at what I say, school makes me sick, etc. Do any of these sound familiar to you? These are the belief codes that most children build their thoughts, words and actions upon.
What we say to parents, teachers and role models of children is to pay attention to how you influence their belief codes. Treat them the way you would liked to have been treated from your infancy onwards. Each of you has the ability to be a great influence on a child, even if you rarely encounter them. A simple smile can do wonders for someone who feels invisible. When you meet their parents, introduce yourself to the child, too. Treat the child with kindness and respect. Avoid patronizing behaviors such as patting them on the head or baby talk.
Encourage the child to dream his life into being. Under no circumstances ridicule them or tell them they should make another choice. If they ask your advice, give it to them clearly and concisely, letting them know that other people have differing opinions. Encourage them to talk to others who have differing opinions and then make their own decision.
Release all gender related behaviors such as boys wear blue and play with trucks while girls wear pink and play with dolls. Allow children to choose their career paths without labeling them as gender roles such as girls become nurses or hairdressers while boys become doctors or truck drivers. Treat children with respect. Listen to their words, encourage them to solve their problems and allow them to blossom. We hope these words touch your heart and help you make changes that allow you to heal and rebuild your foundation, thus enhancing the skills needed to nurture yourself and the children you encounter. Selamet! Caban 2 To read this Message in its entirety, scroll to Day 197 at: https://mayanmessages.wordpress.com/days-196-208/ Please include this web address when posting and sharing with others.
Many blessings, Theresa Crabtree
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