It's Their Dark Night of the Soul, Not Yours

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Summary of Brenda’s May 13, 2021, channeled “Creation Energies” show at Those awakening are in their dark night of the soul. So your outer world seems filled with fear. You, in turn, have dropped your joy fizzy pill to the bottom of your glass, and the joy bubbles are starting to reach the top. Even though you’ll likely wish to avoid those in their dark night of their soul for a bit, your relationship will return once they’ve completed that phase. Those who remain in 3D will likely never again be a major part of your life.

“Superman or Wonder Woman Without Disguises” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for Life Tapestry

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Today is a day of jubilation, for much has been achieved. In truth, more than you imagined possible before your entry to the earth in this lifetime. 

Such is so because you wish to experience new earth. 

What is not known is how you will react to new you in this new earth. Doing so is more confusing than you anticipated, for 3D behaviors are at times overlapping your new you needs – and all is happening simultaneously.

Of the energy shifts happening this year, the next few weeks will be the most confusing. For you are surrounded by those experiencing their dark night of the soul while attempting to discover and live your joy.

Part of you feels wrong experiencing joy, for those you love are crying out in pain. At the same time, you do not have much interest in those crying out in pain, for your dark night of the soul is in your past. 

You want those you love to snap out of it. What is their problem? Why are they so finicky, bad-tempered, ill at ease, and cantankerous? Why can they not enjoy life?

So it is the two of you are in different places – something you do not wish to prolong. So you push, pull, and drag them into a joy they cannot yet feel. A bit like an older sibling insisting a younger sibling has to have the same skillset.

Those in their dark night of the soul cannot understand you, just as you have difficulties understanding them. It seems as if the gap between you and those you love is too great to ever return to what used to be. Perhaps words are exchanged that are uncomfortable for both. Perhaps there is a physical separation that seems too great to heal.

This is where your joy enters, for you are beginning to process your world through your new capabilities. It is as if one moment you are angry at the one you love only to realize you are expecting too much of them now. The divide between you and those you love will disappear the moment you allow yourself to understand they are no longer you.

In 3D, you expected those you loved to complete you, to be the other half of you. New you fully understands that concept never was possible. That in New Earth, two whole beings create a third entity stronger than either. That another cannot slip within anyone’s being to make them stronger or better.

In 3D, couples most often discovered the skills they were least interested in and allowed their mate to perform that task or knowledge. Such is no longer true. Now that each being is becoming unique, those skills that never held much interest will be eliminated.

You were most often assigned 3D tasks related to your sex, age, race, and community needs. Even though you did not necessarily enjoy those tasks, you fulfilled them because someone had to. Those who shirked their assigned tasks were isolated or demeaned.

Those beyond 3D no longer have assigned tasks, nor will they ever.

Three-D humans are most similar to a caterpillar with limited options of movement. Butterflies travel throughout the world with few limitations.

Males transitioning beyond 3D will likely not have the same interests as was true or expected in 3D, just as will be true for females. So some females might decide to function much as a male did in 3D, or vice versa. There are no rules beyond 3D.

The only new you rule is to be yourself. That does not mean you caretake those during their dark night of the soul. Nor does it mean you will wait for them to push through their dark night.

Your joy, your role, is to follow your interests – even if those you love are not interested in the same areas or actions. Many of you worry that those you love will not shift or not do so in time for you to share the joys of the new earth with them.

Even though such is unlikely given that those you love have started their transition by entering their dark night, it is none of your business if they decide to slow or halt their progress. You cannot live their life for them. Nor can you slow or hasten their progress.

Those you love are not tied to you – even though you might want them to be. They are unique individuals following their unique plans. Something you cannot hasten or slow down.

Any more than a butterfly can encourage a caterpillar to become a butterfly. Even though the butterfly was once a caterpillar, the two no longer interact. They are different. The caterpillar becomes a butterfly because they must due to their inner urgings, not because a butterfly friend or relative tells them to do so.

So it is for you and your loved ones. They will do what they want and need to do regardless of what you wish, say, or do. You are not their keeper, their lion tamer, or their guardian. Those you love will process the inner information they receive, just as you did. And they will act upon that information if and when they please.

You are no longer of 3D, and they are not yet necessarily beyond 3D. It is as if you expect house cats and lions to react the same in a confined area.

Allow your loved ones to shift as they wish. Perhaps the two of you will soon be flitting together in the ethers once again. Perhaps not. That is their choice.

Your choice and only choice is how you wish to adapt to the ethers. That is not to say that your loved ones will never shift, but instead, their timing is their choice, not yours.

Your role is to shine your light, and that is only possible if you follow your interests to find your joy. Stopping or slowing down so you can share your loved one’s misery and fear helps no one – least of all your loved one. So be it. Amen. To receive Brenda’s Blog, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her “Blog & Subscribe” page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation. Or subscribe via

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