Enlightening Life by Jennifer Hoffman Published January 16, 2013 | By Administrator
Dear Jennifer: I am confused about what to do with my life at this point, as I have retired from my job, my children are grown and I am free to take care of my life, but I’m worried that I am now too old to change. All of my life, since I was a child, I have taken care of others and I now need to find my wings and learn how to take care of myself, explore some of my gifts and do things that make me happy. I don’t even know where to begin. Can you help me?
Jennifer’s Answer: What an exciting time of your life and although it may be scary, you will find the joy you are seeking. You don’t need to find your wings, though, you just need to start using them to fly on your own. You have been the wings beneath the people in your life, supporting and guiding them in their lives. Now you need to focus this energy and support inward, using it for yourself. We all have wings and can fly freely in our lives, we just don’t always use our wings to fly for ourselves. And you are not too old to start, age is not a factor here. All it takes is desire, willingness and courage.
What you really want is to feel free and unencumbered by others’ needs and wants. You have been their support for a long time, what does it feel like to stop supporting them and focus on yourself? It’s possible to do this without feeling guilty by remembering that everyone is powerful and has their own source of power.
Helping others can be very gratifying and fulfilling and one of your lessons will be to learn to get the same sense of gratification when you are doing things for yourself. Can you be happy taking care of yourself or do you need appreciation from others to feel that you are doing something worthwhile and valuable? The desire is there, you really do want to make changes and you are aware that there are gifts and talents you can use in your life. You’re willing to change and that is important, but know that this does not require that others agree with your choice and let you go, you need to let yourself go.
This is where the courage comes in because within your soul contracts you have agreed to help many others, which is why you have been so supportive in their lives. Soul contracts can be terminated or modified and your desire to be free indicates that it is time to do that. What others do without your assistance depends on how they choose to use their power and they will either learn to fly on their own, find another person to support them, or feel abandoned and alone. That is their choice and the best gift you can give them is to learn how to find and use their own wings, while you expand your own and fly freely above the limitations you have created in your life. Your wings are there, it’s just time to stretch them out and see how far they will allow you to fly.
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